Welcome to the forum. If fatigue life is critical then you are correct in looking at steel. However havng said that there are way too many unknowns to be able to advise you. It is impossible, well, for me at least, to offer anything when you are talking "tube," "forging" and "machining" all in the same paragraph.
It gets worse.
Given that it is for the Military it is going to require documentation coming out of the walls, floors and ceilings. Asking here is probably not a good start. I would be looking for an Engineer familiar with large commercial aircraft landing gear experience to answer those questions. Even better, you should probably hire him to design it with those stress and fatigue figure requirements.